Who should you tell first?
You’ve begun your journey from engagement to wedding. Who do you tell first?
You may be:
- A couple where both of you are marrying for the first time,
- Engaged, where one or both of you have already been married,
- One or both of you are already a mom or a dad,
- A married couple renewing your vows, or
- You are over 50 and getting married.
Who do you tell first, second and…
You are excited to share your news. You can’t always share the news in person. If you can’t, use a phone call, a text, an email, or a letter.
Children:
If either or both of you have children, tell them first. You don’t want them to hear it from anyone else.
Parents;
Usually you tell the bride’s parents first, then the groom’s parents.
“Announcing our engagement was an exciting wonderful evening. I am sure that yours will be too. Enjoy!”
The memories of how and when you announce your engagement are priceless!
Siblings, Grandparents, and Other Close Relatives;
Unless they are far out of town, tell them in person. If they live too far, phone them as soon as possible. Best on the day you get engaged.
Your Closest Friends; soon after the engagement
Everyone else; Keep reading.
How to announce your engagement to everyone else?
You have a few options. Most brides and grooms utilize at least some if not all of them.
- Mail printed announcements. They do not have to be expensive. Purchase blank invitation kits and print them on your computer printer. If you plan to have a wedding ceremony and reception, send announcements only to people you intend to invite.
- Invite your friends and family to an engagement party.
- Publish an announcement in your local newspaper.
- Create a Wedding Website.
- Secure your wedding date and location, then send out Save-The-Date cards.
Now, that you announced your engagement, how do you plan your wedding without getting all stressed out?
- Announce your engagement.
- Have your fiancé spend time with your family, so they will get to know and welcome your fiancé.
- Be prepared to answer many questions.
- Prepare for an engagement party. It is customary for parents to have an engagement party.
- Decide how much time you need to plan your wedding. Use the personalized “Our Wedding Planning Guide and Organizer” It will guide you. It is FREE! It is our gift to you with our best wishes. However, you need to subscribe and login to access the printable version. This is a very comprehensive personalized planner that includes articles, tips, budgeting worksheets, planning worksheets, vendor hiring worksheets, and many checklists. It includes Contract Checklist forms to assure you that every detail is covered.
- Read the articles you are interested in, and use the worksheets and checklists.
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Get Ready to Plan Your Wedding with the Help of the – ‘Printable Wedding Guide’
- Read the articles you are interested in, and use the worksheets and checklists.
- Find out if your families will participate by contributing funds or by covering the costs of specific needs.
- Set your budget. (See Tips Page.)
- Set your priorities. 1. Must have 2. Would like to have 3. Will have only if it is within our budget.
- Open a wedding specific checking account and get an awards credit card dedicated exclusively to wedding expenses. (They pile up quickly.)
- Research our online A-wedding Day magazine and as many other magazines as you can and attend Bridal Shows to get ideas and meet vendors online and off.
How to Best Use the Wedding Planner and forms
- Always carry a notebook and pen so you can add ideas, details, things to check, and notes.
- Purchase a 2 inch 3-rings binder for planning your wedding. Additionally, you may wish to purchase Page Protectors, and envelopes or pockets for 3-ring binders. Use them to hold articles, pictures, menu ideas, fabric swatches, stationery ideas and samples. You can also get photo pockets and business card holders, etc. All are available in stationary stores.
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…
- Make the first draft of your Guest List. You may need to tailor it to fit within your budget.
- Choose possible dates for your wedding.
- What time of day you would prefer for the ceremony?
- Coordinate a date from your chosen possible dates with, and book it with an Officiant.
- When, at what time of day would you like the wedding reception.
- Check your budget and the number of guests against the basic venue reception costs.
- Decide what style of reception you want and how many hours should it last. This may depend on your budget and number of guests. The lesser the number of guests and the lesser number of hours, the less expensive. Trim your original Guest List if necessary.
- Where do you want to have your wedding; on the beach, in a garden or park, at your place of worship, in a reception hall?
- Start looking for a reception venue. Have the ceremony and the reception in the same location and you will save money.
What do you do once you know how many guests you’ll have
- Now that you know who will be invited, send out Save the Date cards.
- Decide what will be your wedding colors.
- Choose and invite the people you want as your Wedding Attendants.
- Consider friends and family members who may be willing to contribute their talents to your wedding. Do you know anyone who: Does flower arrangements? Decorates special cakes? Can design centerpieces? Plays an instrument and/or Sing? Etc.
- Jot down all the do-able tasks and all deadlines and set your personal time table.
- Contact those who you believe are reliable, to whom you could delegate tasks.
- Mark each task, deadline, interview, appointment, meeting and follow-up on your calendar.
- Don’t stress! Use our planner and relax. enjoy each other and have lots of fun as you plan your wedding together.
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