What to do After you get Engaged

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Announcing Your Engagement

You got engaged what do you do next? Many couples face this question andget all stressed out. Planning a wedding shouldbe fun. So read this blog and you will feel relieved. However, Start at the beginning. The first thing you need to do is: Announce your engagement.

In today’s Society announcing your engagement depends on your form of wedding. There are various wedding scenarios, each with different requirements.

  • Is this a first time marriage for both of you?
  • Are you a couple where one or both of you have been married before, but have no children?
  • Do either one or both of you have been married before, and have children?
  • Have you been married for a while and decided to have a renewal of vows wedding?

We’ll begin with the wedding announcement of brides and grooms, having a Family Wedding that includes children and creates a blended family.

Brides and grooms, who do not have children, should skip number 1.

Who do you tell first, second and…

It is no secret that you are bursting in the seam wanting to share your happy news with those closest to you.

Sharing the news in person is not always practical. When it is not, a phone call, an email or texting are appropriate.

  1. Your Children; If either or both of you have children, they should be the first to hear of your engagement. You do not want them to hear it from anyone else.

  2. Your Parents;Usually the parents of the bride are told first, following immediately by the parents of the groom.

  3. Siblings, Grandparents, and Other Close Relatives; Your Closest Friends; and
  4. Everyone else;

How to announce your engagement to everyone else?

You have a few options. Most brides and grooms utilize at least some if not all of them.

  • Mail printed announcements. They do not have to be expensive. Purchase blank invitation kits and print them on your computer printer. If you plan to have a wedding ceremony and reception, send announcements only to people you intend to invite.
  • Invite or have the host of your engagement party, invite your friends and family to an engagement party.
  • Publish an announcement in your local newspaper.
  • Create a Wedding Website.
  • Once you secure your wedding date and location, send out Save-The-Date cards.

 

What to do after getting engaged?

Getting acquainted

  1. Announce your engagement.
  2. Have your fiancé spend time with your family. This will give them the opportunity to get to know him or her better. He or she will become a part of the family and you want him or her to be welcomed.
  3. Be prepared to answer many questions
  4. Prepare for an engagement party. It is customary for parents to have an engagement party.
  5. Decide how much time you need to plan your wedding

First Steps in Planning Your wedding

  1. Use the PERSONALIZED “Our Wedding – Wedding Planning Organizer Guide”  It is our welcome gift to you. We celebrate our transitioning from a 22 years web site, to a MAGAZINE format. So, for the time being, (For a limited time) the guide is FREE. But you need to sign up and LOGIN to access the prntable ersion. Do it now.
  2. The wedding planning organizer will guide you, so you can easily plan your wedding from start to finish, no matter how casual or lavish.
  3. You will love this personalized wedding planning workbook because it is printable. Just print as any pages you want, as many copies as you need and you can insert the pages in a 3-ring binder. Look for a nice 2 inch binder with a see through cover and create a famly heirloom.
  4. Enjoy working with this very comprehensive personalized planner. It is a true stress reliever that includes articles, tips, budgeting worksheets, planning worksheets, hiring worksheets and many checklists. It even includes Contract Checklist forms to assure that every detail is covered.

Do your research and set your priorities

  1. Read the articles you are interested in and use the worksheets and checklists.
  2. Find out if your families will participate by contributing funds or by covering the costs of specific needs.
  3. Set your budget. (See Tips Page.)
  4. Set your priorities. 1. Must have 2. Would like to have 3. Will have only if it is within our budget.
  5. Research wedding magazines and attend Bridal Shows.

Your Tasks

  1. Open a wedding specific checking account
  2. Get an awards credit card dedicated exclusively to wedding expenses.
  3. Carry a notebok and pen so you can jot down ideas, vendors you hear about, notes etc.
  4. Make the first draft of your Guest List. You may need to tailor it to fit within your budget.
  5. Choose possible dates.
  6. Choose time of day for ceremony.
  7. Coordinate a date from your chosen dates and book an Officiant.
  8. Choose time of day for reception.
  9. Decide what style of reception you want. This may depend on your budget and number of guests.
  10. Start looking for a reception venue.
  11. Check your budget and the number of guests against the basic venue reception costs.
  12. Trim your original Guest List if necessary.
  13. Now that you know who will be invited, send out Save the Date cards.
  14. Choose your wedding colors.
  15. Choose and invite the people you want as your Wedding Attendants.
  16. Consider friends and family members who may be willing to contribute their talents to your wedding. Do you know anyone who:  Does flower arrangements? Decorates special cakes? Can design centerpieces? Plays an instrument and/or Sing? Etc.
  17. Jot down all the do-able tasks and all deadlines and set your personal time table.
  18. Contact those who you believe are reliable, to whom you could delegate tasks.
  19. Mark each task, deadline, interview, appointment, meeting and follow-up on your calendar.
  20. Relax and enjoy each other as you plan your wedding together. Oh yes, take lots of pictures.
  21. Have fun!

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Nily Glaser, A retired school principal, is the CEO of A-wedding Day at: She is a published author of books and important articles. Her Personalized Wedding Planning Organizer that is available to subscribers in printable format, can be found in the A-wedding Day Magazine.  www.a-weddingday.com Nily Glaser has presented workshops for parents, teachers and for wedding professionals all over the USA.

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